it’s got mystery, it’s got history...

gomaccha: I forgot I started this before I left to visit my...

Tue, 26 Jun 2018 15:22:50 -0400

I forgot I started this before I left to visit my family so I threw some colors on him today… have an a e s t h e t i c spidey hahaha

stardustjester: Me, rolling down the sidewalk in heelys with 2 pairs of sunglasses on, blasting...

Mon, 25 Jun 2018 21:53:39 -0400

stardustjester:

Me, rolling down the sidewalk in heelys with 2 pairs of sunglasses on, blasting Tainted Love by Soft Cell from a cassette player at 3am: I’m looking for cryptids.

strangemonochromes: Ganbare! Nakamura-kun!! (ガンバレ！中村くん!!)...

Mon, 25 Jun 2018 20:51:03 -0400

strangemonochromes:

Ganbare! Nakamura-kun!! (ガンバレ！中村くん!!) // Syundei

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Mon, 25 Jun 2018 20:48:15 -0400

fem-the-future:I’M CRYING

Mon, 25 Jun 2018 20:47:03 -0400

fem-the-future:

I’M CRYING

imblushy:pride parade in san francisco june 2017 // ig....

Mon, 25 Jun 2018 20:45:59 -0400

imblushy:

pride parade in san francisco june 2017 // ig. @isisilvach

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Sun, 24 Jun 2018 21:19:38 -0400

decapitated: me at pride :-)

Sun, 24 Jun 2018 20:12:14 -0400

decapitated:

me at pride :-)

fireable: summer mood: topless in a hammock. lips glossed. fully hydrated and eating a whole mango

Sun, 24 Jun 2018 17:58:44 -0400

fireable:

summer mood: topless in a hammock. lips glossed. fully hydrated and eating a whole mango

kirbbian: the things that a lot of y’all assume are “lesbian only” feelings and experiences and tag...

Sun, 24 Jun 2018 17:58:11 -0400

kirbbian:

the things that a lot of y’all assume are “lesbian only” feelings and experiences and tag with “non-lesbians don’t touch” rlly reveals a lot of assumptions u have abt what bi women feel and experience. i’ve said it before and i’ll say it again, lesbians and bi women have far more in common with each other than not, and the differences should not be defined without input from bi women themselves

serotonin-deficiency-king: Me: Bawling while eating ice creamFBI agent watching me: What the fuck...

Sun, 24 Jun 2018 17:54:25 -0400

serotonin-deficiency-king:

Me: *Bawling while eating ice cream*
FBI agent watching me: What the fuck up with you bitch?
Me:Queer eye is helping out a closeted black man to come out to his stepmother as his relationship with his boyfriend is becoming serious. They’re helping him over come the internalised homophobia and misconceptions of what he thinks about his sexuality
FBI agent: F-Fuck man

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Sun, 24 Jun 2018 17:51:04 -0400

todays meme is:

Sun, 24 Jun 2018 17:48:15 -0400

todaysmeme:

being safe and being kind

popularcultures: Lorde photographed by Arkan Zakharov for...

Sun, 24 Jun 2018 17:46:48 -0400

popularcultures:

Lorde photographed by Arkan Zakharov for Fashion Magazine

the-ice-castle: rest in fucking pieces, mr. darcy

Sun, 24 Jun 2018 17:33:04 -0400

the-ice-castle:

rest in fucking pieces, mr. darcy

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Sun, 24 Jun 2018 09:00:50 -0400

adreadfulidea: elodieunderglass: jenroses: star-anise: thunderboltsortofapenny: star-anise: em...

Sun, 24 Jun 2018 08:54:06 -0400

adreadfulidea:

elodieunderglass:

jenroses:

star-anise:

thunderboltsortofapenny:

star-anise:

emotional-karuma:

star-anise:

I’m avoiding the thing about Trump’s family separation policy as much as possible because it literally makes me want to melt down in a rage the moment I think about it almost at all, and as a Canadian there’s an incredibly limited amount I can do when I have to keep my own precarious mental health functioning

but I just want you to know that a lot of the field of Attachment Theory in psychology began after WWII, when psychologists examined the physical and psychological health of children sent away from their parents for their own “safety”

and what we found about the psychological results of broken child-caregiver attachment has led us to conclude that it is literally MORE HUMANE to leave families intact in refugee camps in warzones, than to separate the children from their parents, even if those children are sent to the best of all possible environments.

Speaking as a fucking psychologist I just want you to know that if you want to fuck someone up FOR FUCKING LIFE, the BEST possible way to do it, is to abruptly separate them from the adults who love and care for them. For maximum fuckery do it before the age of 3, 5 is pretty damn good at fucking them up for life too, but honestly any time before adulthood is pretty effective. You will fuck them up in a way we just DON’T know how to heal yet. You don’t just leave them catastrophically more at risk for mental illness, learning disorders, addictions, abuse, and future trauma, you also put them at much higher risk of things like diabetes, heart attack, and suicide.

~~and then I thought about what kind of environments those kids ARE being sent into and I need to throw up now~~

Op do you have any links to papers or anything? Preferably not paywalled?

Honestly the field is so huge and so broad that I have too many sources rather than too few. The harder thing is pointing to a concise, targeted, tailored-to-be-relevant summary. (But if child trauma experts in the US aren’t working on producing one at this very instant, I’ll eat my hat.)

The two places I recommend starting are the Child Trauma Academy Library and the National Child Traumatic Stress Network.

American Psychological Association statement on border separation

American Public Health Association statement on border separation

At this point all you need to do is Google search ‘border’ and ‘child abuse’ and you’ll get buried in articles. Google Scholar is about the same

Thanks! @emotional-karuma, there you go.

Separation is terrible, institutional care is deadly, and these kids are getting both.

Institutional care kills babies. It damages them developmentally, even if the care is “perfect” functionally (clean children, well fed, medical care given) we’re hearing reports that the adults at the facilities are not allowed to offer comfort and that the children are not allowed to hug each other. If people want more, look at the Romanian Orphanage history. I’m not posting links because it makes me cry to think about it.

One of the more layperson-accessible books on attachment and the results of childhood trauma is The Boy Who Was Raised As A Dog. It isn’t perfect, but it’s as easy to read as a novel, and the case studies will stick in your head.

As a Canadian, we can contact Minister Ahmed Hussen and demand that the Safe Third Country agreement be dropped. It’s a bullshit piece of post 9/11 legislation and must go. The numbers are 1 613 995-0777 and 1 416 656-2526.

At the very least we can make sure the immigrants fleeing America have somewhere to go.

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Sun, 24 Jun 2018 08:50:20 -0400

trezbelivt: youmattered: Having separate flags is good bcos it’s good to have a symbol for your...

Sun, 24 Jun 2018 08:46:18 -0400

trezbelivt:

youmattered:

Having separate flags is good bcos it’s good to have a symbol for your particular identity to embrace but it also important to remember the rainbow flag unites us all. All LGBT+ people can use it. I feel like it’s somehow become assumed by a lot of younger lgbt+ people that it’s only fr gay men, which it isn’t and never has been

The rainbow flag when originally created by Gilbert Baker in 1978 actually contained 8 stripes that were assigned values and specific meanings that were meant to show what unites us and what we value as a community,

It took 30 people to hand dye AND hand stitch the first 2 pride flags- 30 people of various identities came together to create the first symbol of pride. Hot pink was removed due to fabric shortages and turquoise was mixed with indigo to have the darker blue we have today.

Having individual flags is great to show your identity but I think we shouldn’t forget that the rainbow flag isn’t reserved for gay men, it was created to show what we all have in common regardless of identity.

jnnghyun: happy pride to all the lesbians who just found out or just came to accept that they’re...

Sat, 23 Jun 2018 22:52:35 -0400

jnnghyun:

happy pride to all the lesbians who just found out or just came to accept that they’re lesbians i love u all 🌺🌸💞

it’s got mystery, it’s got history...

gomaccha: I forgot I started this before I left to visit my...

stardustjester: Me, rolling down the sidewalk in heelys with 2 pairs of sunglasses on, blasting...

strangemonochromes: Ganbare! Nakamura-kun!! (ガンバレ！中村くん!!)...

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fem-the-future:I’M CRYING

imblushy:pride parade in san francisco june 2017 // ig....

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decapitated: me at pride :-)

fireable: summer mood: topless in a hammock. lips glossed. fully hydrated and eating a whole mango

kirbbian: the things that a lot of y’all assume are “lesbian only” feelings and experiences and tag...

serotonin-deficiency-king: Me: *Bawling while eating ice cream*FBI agent watching me: What the fuck...

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todays meme is:

popularcultures: Lorde photographed by Arkan Zakharov for...

the-ice-castle: rest in fucking pieces, mr. darcy

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adreadfulidea: elodieunderglass: jenroses: star-anise: thunderboltsortofapenny: star-anise: em...

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trezbelivt: youmattered: Having separate flags is good bcos it’s good to have a symbol for your...

jnnghyun: happy pride to all the lesbians who just found out or just came to accept that they’re...

happy pride to all the lesbians who just found out or just came to accept that they’re lesbians i love u all 🌺🌸💞

serotonin-deficiency-king: Me: Bawling while eating ice creamFBI agent watching me: What the fuck...